Hello and welcome to another OddLearning post.
Today I want to share some very Odd and interesting information.
36 Questions that Lead to LOVE
Over 20 years ago psychologist Arthur Aron accomplished making two stranger fall in love.
How? Well, the experiment was very simple.
A man and a woman entered a room, they sat in front of each other and answered a list of very intimate questions.
Once they finished the questions, they looked into each other eyes for 4 minutes, without saying a word.
Believe it or not, 6 months after they got married…!!!!
They idea of this experiment is that showing each others vulnerability can increase closeness.
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable can be extremely difficult, more so for people that had strenuous relationship through life. You might relate, but many of us lowered our guards at one point, only to get our deepest thoughts and feelings mocked.
I personally don’t think i could pull this off…. but it has worked more than once.
The reason this experiment was successful is thanks to both participants lowering their guards and showing their vulnerability.
Would you like to see the 36 questions that made it happen?
Let us start!:
1- Guessing you could choose anyone in the world, who would you like to invite for dinner?
2- Would you like to be famous? In which sense?
3- Have you ever practice what you are going to say before making a phone call? Why?
4- What is for you a “perfect day”?
5- When was the last time you sang alone? And with company?
6- If you were to live till you were 90, and the last 60 years you could choose between having the mind or the body of your 30 year old self. What would you choose?
7- Do you get a feeling you know how you are going to die?
8- Name 3 things you and the other person might have in common.
9- For what are you most thankful in life?
10- If you could change anything from the way you were raised, what would that be?
11- Share your life story in 4 minutes to the other person, with as much detail as possible.
12- If you were to wake up tomorrow with a new skill or power, what would that be?
13- If a crystal ball could tell you any truth about you, your life or your future. What would you like to know?
14- Is there something you have dreamed about for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15- What is your biggest achievement so far?
16- What do you treasure the most in friendship?
17- What is your most precious memory?
18- What is your most traumatic memory?
19- If you knew you would die in one year. Is there anything you would change in the way you are living? Your lifestyle? Why?
20- What does friendship mean to you?
21- What role does love and affection play in your life?
22- Alternating, mention a positive characteristic from the other. 5 will do the trick.
23- How united and caring is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most people?
24- How is your relationship with your mother?
25- Make 3 honest statements using “We”. For example; “We are feeling (awkward, happy, uncomfortable, etc…) “
26- Complete this sentence; ” I wish i had someone to share ____ with”
27- If you were to become close friends. What would be something important the other one should know?
28- Tell the other person what you like about (Her/him). Be honest and say the things you probably wouldn’t tell to someone you just met.
29- Tell the other person an embarrassing moment of your life.
30- When was the last time you cried? Where you alone?
31- Tell the other person something you REALLY like about them. (Since you know them more than 30 questions ago) 😉
32- What is something you consider it would be disrespectful to joke about?
33- If you were to die tonight without being able to say goodbye. What would you regret not saying to someone? Why haven’t you told them that?
34- Your house and everything you own is on fire. After saving your loved ones you could choose to save one more thing. What would that be? Why?
35- The loss of which family member would be the most devastating for you? Why?
36- Share a personal problem and ask the other person how would they handle it? Also, ask them to describe how do they think you feel regrading the problem you shared.
Last but not least, once you are done asking each other the questions above, look into each other’s eyes for 4 minutes.
What do you think?
Would you be willing to try this with a complete stranger and perhaps…fall in love?
Please let us know in the comments! 😀
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